• Family and Individual Education and Coaching

Mary Kay Keller

About
Books
Classes
Coaching
Podcasts
Testimonials

My Teen and Masturbation?

Posted on February 9, 2011 by Mary Kay Keller

Dawn

Subject: male teen masturbation

Question: hello, I’m a single mom with a 15 year old son.my question concerns my son. I have caught him masturbating several times and he seems to be doing it everyday. Is this normal?

Do males masturbate that often? He always seems to have an erection.it is very noticeable when he is wearing shorts around the house. It is a little embarrassing to see he doesn’t try to hide it but I know he must know it is clearly visible. I haven’t spoken to him about this yet.

I don’t know what to say. I don’t want to embarrass him but I would prefer that he masturbate instead of walking around with an erection in front of me. How can I tell him?

I don’t care if he masturbates but I don’t want him to over do it and end up hurting himself. Is daily masturbation healthy and normal?

Answer: Dear Dawn:

A great place to get information (booklets, pamphlets,etc.) is planned parenthood. I would see if they have something for boys on masturbation or check out the local bookstore for some reading materials.

As for what is “normal” for teen boys it varies. Teen boys as are teen girls very hormonal as their bodies are changing rapidly. I wouldn’t worry about him hurting himself. What I would do is be frank with him and tell him you prefer he do so in the privacy of his bedroom, then respect his privacy. No reason for you to catch him if he is in his room or the bathroom.

As for erections, this is something no male has any control over. You certainly cannot request he masturbate to quiet you own discomfort. Ask yourself why you are so unsettled by something he has no control over.

Possibly the reading material would be good for both of you.

Hopefully as a single mom you have a relationship with at least one significant male who you can talk to and would give you more advice or listen. Men often are good resources for what to say or not to say to teen boys.

Best Wishes!

M Kay Keller

http://astore.amazon.com/lifsjouagrass-20/detail/B005ELMC0Q

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recent Posts

  • Why is Breastfeeding Awareness So Important?
  • Babies are not empty heads that we need to fill up!
  • Learn the Baby Code Here!
  • What happens when optimal caregiving is not addressed.
  • Connecting to your infant through empathy.

Recent Comments

    Archives

    • August 2022
    • December 2020
    • February 2020
    • December 2019
    • November 2019
    • October 2019
    • September 2018
    • July 2018
    • June 2018
    • May 2018
    • April 2018
    • February 2017
    • June 2016
    • March 2016
    • February 2016
    • January 2016
    • December 2015
    • May 2015
    • April 2015
    • March 2015
    • February 2015
    • January 2015
    • November 2014
    • October 2014
    • September 2014
    • August 2014
    • July 2014
    • June 2014
    • May 2014
    • April 2014
    • March 2014
    • February 2014
    • January 2014
    • December 2013
    • November 2013
    • October 2013
    • September 2013
    • August 2013
    • July 2013
    • June 2013
    • May 2013
    • April 2013
    • March 2013
    • February 2013
    • January 2013
    • December 2012
    • November 2012
    • October 2012
    • September 2012
    • August 2012
    • July 2012
    • June 2012
    • May 2012
    • April 2012
    • March 2012
    • February 2012
    • January 2012
    • December 2011
    • November 2011
    • October 2011
    • September 2011
    • August 2011
    • July 2011
    • June 2011
    • May 2011
    • April 2011
    • March 2011
    • February 2011
    • January 2011
    • December 2010
    • November 2010
    • October 2010
    • September 2010
    • August 2010
    • July 2010
    • June 2010

    Categories

    • ACES
    • Adult Children
    • Adverse Childhood Experiences
    • alcohol
    • All Families
    • animal abuse
    • attachment
    • Babies
    • baby
    • Bedtime
    • bethchange
    • bonding
    • breastfeeding
    • caregiving
    • Child abuse
    • Children
    • communication
    • Dads
    • dating
    • discipline
    • emotional abuse
    • emotional development
    • empathy
    • family
    • father
    • fathering
    • grand parent
    • grandparenting
    • grandparents
    • health
    • infant
    • infant communication
    • infant empathy
    • infant massage
    • infants
    • massage
    • mother
    • mothering
    • mothers
    • Occam's razor
    • parenting
    • pet
    • prevention
    • protective factors
    • Q and A 13-17 yr old
    • Q and A 2 yr old
    • relationships
    • research
    • Resiliency
    • Romance
    • sibling
    • siblings
    • single dad
    • sleep
    • stepparenting
    • teens
    • Toddlers
    • Trauma
    • Trauma informed care
    • Uncategorized
    • videoblog
    • violence

    Meta

    • Log in
    • Entries feed
    • Comments feed
    • WordPress.org

    © 2000, MaryKayKeller.com. All Rights Reserved.