• Family and Individual Education and Coaching

Mary Kay Keller

About
Books
Classes
Coaching
Podcasts
Testimonials

My 1 yr old boy dislikes me

Posted on July 27, 2011 by Mary Kay Keller

Bonnie

Question: My little boy is 12 months old, And I am having a really hard time because I feel like he hates me. He has always been more of a daddy’s boy,which is fine with me, Of course every once in a while it stings, but it is daddy. But this past weekend for Christmas we were at grandmas

house, and he barely sees her, and he wanted nothing to do with me, only My husband, and grandma, I would be holding him, and he would start crying for one of them, OR he will completely by pass me for her, It was really hurting my feelings, and then she was rubbing it in, which made it worse. I mean he didn’t want me once, I am extremely hurt over this,And it seems like he just does not like me, I feel like I must be a horrible mom in his eyes, He just dislikes me, He throws fits in the morning when I get him out of bed sometimes, But he is fine with daddy. I am having a hard time, I spend the most time with him, And I love him so much, we play and play, He does come to me at home sometimes, I just got so confused this weekend at grandmas, I know he knows her, but he rarely sees her, And he wanted her over me the whole weekend. I have never seen this with anyone else’s little ones.

Answer: Dear Bonnie:

I am more concerned about you and this perspective that your child does not like you. This is not a popularity contest. Please let go of this now.

You state that you spend most of the time with him and you play and play. He would not play with you this much if he did not like you. Because you spend more time with him, he is bound to be more excited when he is with people he does not spend so much time with all day long.

I suggest doing some of the bedtime routines previously posted on my site such as body massage, bedtime games and routines are very important and will increase the good times you have together….

If you continue to have these feelings I strongly suggest getting into see a counselor for some short term counseling.

Best Wishes!

M Kay Keller

http://astore.amazon.com/lifsjouagrass-20/detail/B005ELMC0Q

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recent Posts

  • Why is Breastfeeding Awareness So Important?
  • Babies are not empty heads that we need to fill up!
  • Learn the Baby Code Here!
  • What happens when optimal caregiving is not addressed.
  • Connecting to your infant through empathy.

Recent Comments

    Archives

    • August 2022
    • December 2020
    • February 2020
    • December 2019
    • November 2019
    • October 2019
    • September 2018
    • July 2018
    • June 2018
    • May 2018
    • April 2018
    • February 2017
    • June 2016
    • March 2016
    • February 2016
    • January 2016
    • December 2015
    • May 2015
    • April 2015
    • March 2015
    • February 2015
    • January 2015
    • November 2014
    • October 2014
    • September 2014
    • August 2014
    • July 2014
    • June 2014
    • May 2014
    • April 2014
    • March 2014
    • February 2014
    • January 2014
    • December 2013
    • November 2013
    • October 2013
    • September 2013
    • August 2013
    • July 2013
    • June 2013
    • May 2013
    • April 2013
    • March 2013
    • February 2013
    • January 2013
    • December 2012
    • November 2012
    • October 2012
    • September 2012
    • August 2012
    • July 2012
    • June 2012
    • May 2012
    • April 2012
    • March 2012
    • February 2012
    • January 2012
    • December 2011
    • November 2011
    • October 2011
    • September 2011
    • August 2011
    • July 2011
    • June 2011
    • May 2011
    • April 2011
    • March 2011
    • February 2011
    • January 2011
    • December 2010
    • November 2010
    • October 2010
    • September 2010
    • August 2010
    • July 2010
    • June 2010

    Categories

    • ACES
    • Adult Children
    • Adverse Childhood Experiences
    • alcohol
    • All Families
    • animal abuse
    • attachment
    • Babies
    • baby
    • Bedtime
    • bethchange
    • bonding
    • breastfeeding
    • caregiving
    • Child abuse
    • Children
    • communication
    • Dads
    • dating
    • discipline
    • emotional abuse
    • emotional development
    • empathy
    • family
    • father
    • fathering
    • grand parent
    • grandparenting
    • grandparents
    • health
    • infant
    • infant communication
    • infant empathy
    • infant massage
    • infants
    • massage
    • mother
    • mothering
    • mothers
    • Occam's razor
    • parenting
    • pet
    • prevention
    • protective factors
    • Q and A 13-17 yr old
    • Q and A 2 yr old
    • relationships
    • research
    • Resiliency
    • Romance
    • sibling
    • siblings
    • single dad
    • sleep
    • stepparenting
    • teens
    • Toddlers
    • Trauma
    • Trauma informed care
    • Uncategorized
    • videoblog
    • violence

    Meta

    • Log in
    • Entries feed
    • Comments feed
    • WordPress.org

    © 2000, MaryKayKeller.com. All Rights Reserved.